Friday, 16 March 2018

Developing a society of bullies: The ugly truth in plain sight

I can vaguely remember a book I read during my secondary level literature class called ‘School’s Out’. I cannot recall the author but I remember the plot was one which involved the most unlikely careless people in the role of teachers. That book shed light on what happens when the education system fails children and the community. At the time I thought it was a funny satirical story about our West Indian education system which was not at all like that. Now, I think I have found an institution and society which resembles that type of attitude and embodies the dysfunction it exposed many years ago.
School may be out for some, at least locally, where a lawless society is created, not from poverty and illiterate criminals, but from intellectuals who lack the discipline and commitment to be better examples. I am not sure this should be committed to paper, but it is troubling when faced with a facade which is a disgrace to an education system.
The bully
Bullies are breed. They are given teeth when their power is allowed to grow. They feed on fear of others and are not afraid to intimidate or coerce of use veiled or direct threats. In many primary schools there is a growing epidemic of bullies who can cause disruption, and are labelled as troubled, in need of additional attention and forgiveness. They can beat up, and torture other children, because the education system says they need to be given an education and should not be discriminated against. The innocent victims are advised to accept their persecution as ‘rough play’ and learn ‘how to mix’ with different types of children.
These bullies or ‘special children’ then move into the secondary school system and continue to use force to fight and have their own way. They can get away with disrespect in many instances because their behaviour is enforced by ‘bully parents’. These parents are proud when their children show their strength, and they are always ‘ a good child’. Discipline is lacking and we must learn to tolerate their behaviour as a condition of ‘a problem background’. They will change eventually, is the hope given to those who must accept their purpose and test of life.
Then, the bullies graduate and get a tertiary education continuing their behaviour which has been developed over time. They know scare tactics work, as well as intimidation. They know how to play the game, when to curse, when to smile kindly, when to badger and when to threaten. They evolve into a bigger version of their small selves, and can even graduate, and may be fortunate to become world leaders, because power can make many things possible.

It is unfortunate that I discovered an institution which should be held in high esteem, being dishonest in its offer, disreputable in its processes, and another avenue for the bully to flourish. As someone advised that all work submitted needs to be original, the response was swift, explaining that Turnitin was never really used by the institution, and merely a threat by the school administration. The voice advised that many assignments were copied, pasted and submitted with full marks forthcoming. My shock was evident as was my disbelief, until that statement was reinforced the next day. Then I was advised it goes further, as some students pay others to write assignments and they submit as their own, graduating with certainty was the objective.
As I listened, my innocence felt ripped from me, and in its place, there is nothing.

Group work a panacea for the bully
The situation arose where a couple folks in a group could not agree on where collaboration to execute a project would take place. Then the leader decided to use the class day as a resolution to the problem. Everyone except one person showed up. The missing link deciding that if it could not be done on their terms at their time then everyone would receive zero for the project. One person crossed over, trying to bully the other team members to redo their work at the will of the missing link. Who do you think will win this battle? The bully of course. The key factor here is everyone must be present
to do the project; thus the lecturer will expect everyone to give in to the one who can wield the power. It has always been this way in the institution. Any other way would mean the groupwork was not completed. Quickly the bully knows their power. The others will compromise and give in to get the valued marks, it is the only way to win.
Developing a lawless society
Lawlessness does not happen overnight. It is an accumulation of a breakdown in a society’s justice and law enforcement system. When the leaders, principals, teachers, parents, and many others are lawless can anything else be expected from society? An audit and review of safety systems are normally done to establish credibility in processes and procedures for compliance. Maybe this should be extended to every aspect of society.
It is with a deep level of certainty, as I look around that my country needs help. It is sinking and rotting at all levels. If it were a bucket, there would be holes everywhere with precious water escaping from many routes. As the people flee through the holes which are getting bigger, some will remain. Hopefully they will not suffer persecution from those holding an unfair advantage. I wonder though, if the little bullies were not allowed to flourish, how different our society would be?
Not everything written can appeal, thus, not every truth should be revealed to those wishing to live in a bubble, which will eventually pop.
Thank you for reading and sharing. Leave a comment, and add to the discussion on bullying and your society.
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Wednesday, 14 March 2018

Get The Small Details Then The Big Picture

Conflicting objectives

Today is a new day but in business we carry over the old problems challenges and situations to the next work period. Most times it will be the next day and it probably still looks the same.
When we look at what must be done to complete a task or job we can encounter conflict.
What is conflict or conflicting agendas?
Well conflict in business relates to disagreement or something which brings a negative or alternate reaction to the surface. A good example can be the salesman trying to close a sale and needing support, being advised that the company has made its best offer and anything else will affect his commision rate. The company is holding its minimum margin and the rep grudgingly agrees to give up a part of his percentage. So what is the bigger picture here.
  • A) the salesman needs the sale to meet his quota to gain commission for the month maybe even an additional incentive to pay his car insurance.
  • B) the company can't afford to go lower because it will affect their budget, and it may already be behind due to unexpected operations problems.
The bigger picture for both company and employee may appear to be different but they are in fact the bigger areas of concern which need to be met. The potential for conflict is there if not managed properly. Then of course there are 'agendas'. 
The hidden agendas
The employee and employer have different agendas which must be met for both to be satisfied. In the case of the employee motives for working harder/ overtime or pursuing tasks which will generate an additional reward or benefit can be the fuel which drives surplus actions. Sometimes the employer will be aware of employees additional needs but many times they don't. The hidden agendas can create conflict in activities which require additional efforts and compromise in achieveing the objectives of employees and employer. 
The employer may need to have increased sales to boost revenue in a particular area and to help with cashflow, but the hidden agenda may be a bit of mismanagement which has impacted on the financial standing of the company, threatening its survival. The employer will not wish to disclose a weakness, but the vulnerability of the company can impact on commissions when looking at the entire situation. 
Both examples can create conflict, and looking at the big picture on both sides will lead to frustration.
In business looking at the big picture is looking at the impact of a decision on other areas and seeking to make the best decision in the best interest of the company and staff.
Today I'd like to throw a spanner in the big picture wheel and suggest looking closer at the situation and getting creative with solutions. The big picture won't matter if the little things are not done. Get back to the drawing board and revisit the 'whys', always ensuring the 'big picture' is not the elephant in the room no one speaks about. 
Resolving conflict at work requires patience, a good listening ear and a willingness to set aside the big picture for a moment while getting the smaller things resolved. Managing the little things can reduce the possibility of a big blow up, and that is the real 'big picture' most times!
Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts!

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Monday, 12 March 2018

The Greater Good

The following is published on Citizen4life, and is something to think about!

The concept of the greater good is used to justify actions where loss affects a few/ or takes place to allow for a perceived greater benefit.
There have been wars waged based on ‘the greater good’. During war it is believed that a few hundred men will sacrifice /lose their lives for their country to achieve their goal of strength or freedom.

At work there are times when someone ‘takes one for the team’ because there are proposed future benefits for all. Sometimes it can be a salary to avoid layoffs, and at other times a salesman may be asked to allow another to take over a deal based on bigger benefits for the company in a bigger deal. Whatever the reason, it is considered a sacrifice for the benefit of others.
As I think about this ‘rationale’ it seems that it is a double-edged sword which can be for both good or bad depending on the person using the phrase for justification of action or decision. For good or bad that decision ultimately can be a ‘bitter pill to swallow’. I recall a meeting with a sales team when one of the salespeople suggested they team up against a manager to force a change some thought was necessary. The goal was to make the manager look bad so their suggestion would look like a solution. The weaker members were bullied into submission and one person walked away. The argument was everyone needed to stand together for the team and if the majority thought it was a good idea it was a small sacrifice for the greater good to compromise on one’s beliefs/ values.

The expectation of society to be in ‘martyr mode’ for religious, political and social or cultural reasons has been growing, with folks expected to look at ‘the greater good’, taking one for the team, but ultimately ‘throwing someone below the bus’, as a necessary sacrifice.
There have been wars and sacrifices which have resulted freedom, the end of slavery, freedom of human rights to choose what happens with one’s body, how to pray and what religion to observe, who to vote for and ultimately who to be. When one person decides his way is the right way, and is able to build a cult of support the power of numbers can become a societal bully. The right of man is a human right, but according to George Orwell, “all animals are equal but some animals are more equal than others”. 

‘Animal Farm’ was published on August 17th, 1945 and it’s interesting that today it holds true. When it comes to the greater good, on very few occasions has this been a worthy justification. The abuse of others, and their rights can never and should not be considered as something to promote ‘a greater good’.

Just something to think about.
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Monday, 5 March 2018

Change is … different! Living through economic and social forces


The ABC today.Recalling time when cussing not a language and unacceptable on the top ten songs identify with language of expression and free speech. With deeper meaning and raw truths.. #lifeChanges #theAisaword #Bisaword #Cisaword and #Fisaword

The days of change are remembered.

There was a time when buying an apple in Trinidad was 1TT$ and that was expensive, so we opted to eat mangoes which were free. No neighbour would consider selling a mango and we gladly ‘stoned’ the tree for the fruits to fall, the more agile opting to climb and sit on a branch eating while the others looked on in envy sometimes.  Enjoying the fruits meant sharing and giving any owner the right to say, ‘yes go ahead and pick what you want but leave a couple on the steps for me please.’ ‘Thank you’ was that natural response, manners were cultural and a part of our free expression.

Today, an apple is 10TT$ and some mangoes are the same price. It’s not available for free and no one would consider asking for a couple mangoes because the fences and dogs, security cameras and guards are there to keep you out and away from homeowners. Everyone is afraid to speak and saying ‘yes’ may be because of intimidation, and praying a gun does not come out. If you agreed to someone entering your garden/ yard don’t expect ‘thank you’ or ‘please’, it is no longer culturally acceptable – rather the new universal language may be imposed if you expected a response to your acquiesce.

People are different with each generation identifying with a new way of making their presence known. Today, there are words and things which were taboo and they are ok now. In fact, people fight for their right of choices and it is their right, but what about the rights of those who do not wish to comply with the changes?

Everyone has rights and for many, suppressed rights are a game changer. No longer will it be acceptable to discriminate based on religion, political position, status, gender or race. We have entered a very vocal centaury. It is a vocal world with social media forming a part of everyday life. There is transparency and there is cover up in transparency. The way we see issues are no longer one dimensional, and the way we impose or beliefs on others cross the barriers of free speech and freedom to believe.

The world needs regulation and rules, laws to guide for justice to prevail, but who will guard us from those policy makers, sometimes rule haters themselves.

We may always be as a human race enslaved by our greed and desire to do what we want, how we want and to whom we want. We may be advanced technologically, but we are as a world society trapped by the chaos of civilized perspectives lacking basic courtesies and kindness sometimes.

This too will pass and evolution will continue. The right be a product of existence will diminish for us all and a new generation will challenge economic and social changes differently. This is the nature of change.
Language is simply a symbol of who we are most comfortable being, and in most cases the only way we can liberate ourselves.

Thank you for reading and sharing. Have a wonderful day, and an even more beautiful night! Peace...

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