Monday, 22 May 2017

Failing Up

There is only one ‘F’ word we fear as business people

The thing about life is we don’t ever know when we will succeed or when we will fail.

Yes, I’ve said it. The most difficult F word we try to avoid as business people is Fail. Its considered a negative word and one which should be replaced by a few words or phrases, such as “ it was an interesting period”, “ we did the best we could based on the circumstances”, or maybe we can simply say, “it was the result of an unexpected challenge.” Well let me change the way we admit when defeat happens. I failed. I thought I had all my bases covered, thought the challenges would eventually be overcome. I failed to prepare for the possibility I would need an exit strategy sooner than expected, and one day I had a head on crash.

Of course after the fact, there are many things I could have done better. At the time though, when the walls were closing in survival was not as important as not failing. That ‘F’ word happened but I gained much more than I expected from my experiences.


The next step is …UP

The greatest thing about being at the bottom of your business plan, is getting up and being ready for round 2. In a boxing match there are as many as 9 to 12 rounds and it can get really bloody and messy.

To be a successful business entrepreneur, you really need to get up and get going to the next round. Sometimes a referee will halt the match, allowing one of the fighters to get help and catch his breath. Take that opportunity and breathe, the business can wait, while you regroup and focus on the next round.

After a few moments for a boxer its time to jump back into the ring and give it your all. Even when the match is over, it does not mean the fight is over. It just means the person who lost has a chance to fight another opponent or to have a rematch. The loser may have failed the battle, but once his spirit is not broken, he gets back in and is ready for the next match. The businessman who has taken risks and lost, is the same one who can win the next time he takes a chance or invests in another opportunity.

I’ve finished one fight, and the battle scars are there. Its no longer a question of if I will fight again, but when I will be ready for my next business venture! This is it. I’m “failing up” and I’m going to hit the rings like I’m Muhammed Ali!

The Knock out punch

Here are somethings to remember when you land on the ground face first;
  1. There is no reflection looking back at you. The ground only feels your presence. Get up, and sit for a moment. Take in your surroundings and have a cup of coffee as you do your brownie leg squat .
  2. Find a mirror, and make sure you look at yourself daily. You are alive and its just another day in paradise. You took a chance, and the ride was great while it lasted. Time for a new ride!
Even with a gazillion bills, you need your health, so take a walk, go to the gym, plan some time out for you. At this point, you’re probably broke, but the nearest savannah is free. Walk because you can.

  • Everyone around you continues to do their job. Life has moved on, and you need to also. Don’t beat yourself up. You did well actually. You’re going to master the art of failing soo well you can convert that experience to ‘Failing Up!’

  • Only those privileged to face the floor can face the sky when getting up. Convert the missteps to something only experience can propel. Take your expertise to the next stage. Congratulations, you just Failed Up!

    Feeling inspired, check the heart and let it click so I can see your heart glow :-) Thanks for being awesome!

    A short brief about me: I’m a corporate business veteran, with practical experience in a diverse range of industries — Safety/ HVAC / FMCG /Industrial Equipment /and much more . Sales ,Marketing, Business Development & Coaching are combined to deliver over 30 years experience. As an entrepreneur and blogger (Dwordslayer) I’m right now living an adventure, and looking forward to the next opportunity to challenge mediocrity.

    Thank you for reading, sharing and commenting. You are appreciated!

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    © Donna-Luisa Eversley and D-WORDSLAYER, 2017. All Rights Reserved

    Originally published  at The Marketing and Growth Hacking Publication on March 16th, 2017


    Sunday, 21 May 2017

    When Life Pisses You Off...

    I cannot save the world.

    I've been blogging for some time now, and its been an eye opener for me. Who we really are comes from the things we just don't want to change. I'm sorry, just can't stop trying to help others and myself be inspired to want more. Sometimes I can be a pain in the butt, and  can be brutally honest to others, but moreso to myself.

    This year has been on of those defining times where who I am and what I say matters to me. What I do is even more important. There are so many things to get off my chest, and maybe, instead of looking for the soft words I need to spill the beans.

    1. I am appalled that there are people in this world who support 'the pussy grabber' aka new USA president .
    2. I'm really tired of being the good girl and keeping quiet about the fact, someone tried to kill me by running me over with a car in November, 2014. Working on the forgiveness angle. I'm no longer angry, but where the hell is justice when there is none.
    3. Totally pissed that the people trusted to take care of me in the corporate world , decided that my life  was not important. Hiding truth or covering weakness can be more important to others - reality check.
    4. Simply cannot understand why a good friend would choose to complain year after year about the same thing over and over, and do nothing. Pissed when someone wants to live in a bubble, and close friends can only watch them self destruct.
    5. I'm friggin pissed that crime in my country seems totally out of control, and the police commissioner can't be fired, because he simply cannot do the job.
    6. It pisses me off when I read the news and what's real is being projected as fake because a man cannot accept that he had to use underhand an sinister methods to win an election - USA elections.
    7. I'm pissed that the Dakota pipeline will be destroying the heritage of the owners of the land - the Cherokee Indians .
    8. I'm pissed that folks don't understand that all lives matter only when black lives matter. We have to accept minorities to understand the real value of life.
    9. I'm pissed that I can't make a bigger difference in the world, and that many children and people will be sleeping without shelter tonight.
    10. I'm pissed that many preachers and priests are wealthy beyond what they need and keep taking from the poor,"in the name of Jesus" for their own personal gain. Where is the WISDOM of the people to keep away from scammers?
    11. I'm not embracing being a victim, but I'm pissed that human kindness to give what is due to me by our national insurance services, requires losing all dignity. Its like getting hit over and over again. Eventually faith is hard.
    Yes, I'm angry. I've seen life ended for folks and friends I knew, and I've experienced the hope and restorative nature of having a relationship with God. I don't know how folks live without that light and beacon of hope - my savior Jesus Christ.

    I'm not perfect, and get pissed off a lot (as you can  note above). Does it make me less of a Christian or does it make me a human? Am I less of a leader because a vulnerability is shared or a better one because I admit this?

    I wrote this a couple months ago and it still rings through! Life happens, so if it pisses you off sometimes, let it out. Move forward. Seek out solutions to make a positive difference.

    Getting back to a positive position

    We should never remain pissed or upset and angry. These are emotions which should be released before they fester and become toxic to ourselves. Some conversations or words need to move from the inner storage before they become a part of our DNA.

    We have the choice to make a difference in the lives of others. Every little bit can change the world and make it a better place. Become a piece of thread being used to 'seam' the lives of others, closing separation and connecting unity.

    The struggle is real.


    Thank you for reading, sharing and commenting. You are appreciated!


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    Friday, 19 May 2017

    Not buying the fairytale…

    When love goes south!

    Well its Friday, and I'm still trying to figure out how to share my thoughts on some topics. Love is not very easy to write about, especially when you've had a lot of 'experience' in falling off the passion rollercoaster.  I've been reading a lot this year on almost every imaginable topic. However some stories scream , respond- respond.  So here is a link to a story I read and my 'well meaning, no bullshit' response!


    "A beautiful romantic story of loving and losing. I’m not drinking the same Kool-Aid from many years ago. It’s quite possible the mixture has changed.
    For love to work it has to be a two way street with both parties going in the same direction. People change. As we get to know someone sometimes that love emotion cools and is different for one person.
    Here is some advice to girls like her;
    1. If a man loves you he will show you, by the way he responds to being with you.
    2. If you are willing to be the only one trying to have a relationship, then you’re in it with yourself, and that's very sad for you.
    3. Hey, do not go giving all this great love from this great person for free. Anything of value in life- we have to work for it. No one treats what’s given for free the same. Its like getting ‘fashion jewelry’ or precious gems. You can buy one yourself or wait for someone to give you ‘the ring’.
    4. Please stop whining and crying about how good you treat the man and he treats you badly. Seems to me if you are willing to accept crappy behavior he will keep giving you crap.
    5. Choose to walk away when you are no longer happy. While we know relationships have ups and downs, if you are stressed and unhappy, its not working for you. Would you keep a pet that makes you unhappy? (hopefully the answer is no)
    6. So maybe initially he was nice and then he changes. Wake up please. Read the signs he is giving and not the signs you want to believe. Love should be real. Do not live in your imagination.
    I’m sorry to be the one to clue you in, but when you walk away, chances are he will not be missing you. He will not be sorry you are no longer around. He will probably have more time to check out his side-chick.
    If it sounds tough my friend and fairytale heroine, maybe you need to read Steve Harvey’s book on thinking like a man. Better yet, watch the movie and find the strength to love yourself . When you love yourself , you will know your worth, and won’t be hoping he regrets hurting you. You will put your big girl panties on (even if its a thong) and dance in front of your mirror in heels to “Shake it off!”

    Do I sound harsh? Well, here are some other thoughts I shared that day on that post;

    "...One person in love with the thought of being in love and having a soulmate. Totally oblivious that the other person is seeing through her eyes she is not ‘the one’.
    I wish he told her it would not work. I wish he had hurt her up front and broke her heart, so she could grieve and maybe get over him in a few years. ( If she’s as psycho as you think, it might take medical intervention). Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is to not give hope of a relationship or any benefits. So you both can either gain a respectful parting or become the people who end up hating each other :-) "

    Maybe its the passion which clouds reality when it comes to love. Just something to think about!

    This is a keepsake story, which will remind me every time I go 'off the passion rails' there is a reality called anchor to be held onto at all costs :-)

    Thank you for reading and sharing your comments. Stay awesome!

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    © Donna-Luisa Eversley and D-WORDSLAYER, 2017. All Rights Reserved

    Originally published on  Medium as a response to 'this is how you lose her' February 28th, 2017
     

    Tuesday, 16 May 2017

    Creativity, Innovation, Recycling: Opportunity waits for your action



    Most entrepreneurs are not afraid to take risks!

    I started my first business at eighteen. There was a demand for a product which was always out of stock and decided to make my own. At the time I was not thinking about business plans or securing financing, and was clueless about manufacturing. Nevertheless, with boldness and more bravery than ever, I decided to ‘make some money’. Here is the story.

    Creativity, Innovation & Recycling

    Shoulder pads were the ‘in thing’. All garments especially ladies dresses, suits and shirts came with shoulder pads. I bought a ‘shoulder shaved pair of foam’ uncovered for $6 to $9 a pair. If it was covered it was upwards of $10. I liked to sew and design and made all my clothes. I was know by the owners and employees at most of the fabric stores because I was always looking for deals. My wages were small, but my desire for fashion was big! Everyday, I went to work for eight hours and returned home after collecting my newborn son from the babysitter. He needed food, clothing, and I had rent to pay. One day, while visiting a friend working at a furniture factory I noticed they were dumping large pieces of sheet foam after removing what they needed. An idea was born in that moment and I asked if I could leave with some of the dumped foam.

    Using scraps of fabric in a neutral color I made a semi circle cutout and eventually got three sizes made which I thought would fit smoothly in the shoulder area. I carved a wooden mold of each size and then placed it on the foam and cut. After preparing dinner, fed my son, and started covering the foam. That first night I made 12 pairs. The next day, I stopped by a few stores on my way home and all my pads were sold between 3 stores. I had orders from one store for 12, and was asked to check the other stores the next day. For the next month I continued like this. I collected foam from the factory at no cost ( got a ride home) and bought a couple yards of fabric every few days from the discount counter. My pads were sold wholesale for $3, $4, $5 and everyone wanted them.
    Eventually, I stopped getting the foam for free. I had to pay for the foam, and this reduced my profits. My sewing machine, which was very old, died, so I borrowed one. It was hard to keep doing the two jobs, and then the competition started, and I was unable to keep up. Overall this business lasted approximately six months!

    Does this sound familiar? What do you do when you see an opportunity, and you’re young and willing to take a risk? That experience shared was from 1987.

    Dreams and reality

    Today, there are many resources available for young entrepreneurs, innovators and scientists. If you can dream it, you can ‘make it happen’. I truly believe that. But, what are you prepared to risk to develop, create, grow that idea?
    I had no training at the time in developing a product from ‘idea to market’, yet I was willing to try, and fail. When I started there was not a thought about if I would ‘fail’. Something needed to be done, and this brain just used what it had available. We did not have technology and awareness of many things, and this is how many businesses started.

    My business could not be sustained because it was ‘a part time hustle’ in every sense of the word. There was not a business development plan, no materials management, no machinery investment, and no one who I could turn to for advice. I was a single mom, doing what I had to do to earn a living and care for my baby. Academically, I had not done well in secondary school, and had many challenges to avoid homelessness and hunger X2. I could create and sell — those were my resources!

    Options available

    Now, there is so much available to entrepreneurs around the world. There is also social media and the internet. For many folks in the USA programs like Third Frontier — from Cleveland Ohio, offer capital investment, mentorship and business support to people in the area. You can access funding through ‘seed accelerators’ , which are well developed Angel networks.

    There are ‘philanthropists’ who invest in organizations and individuals to promote entrepreneurship, and of course there are Venture Capital companies who will offer investment financing for equity and shareholding in your business. The list of support is endless, and many countries have their own entrepreneurial programs being developed in some way.
    There are options available, but many times they are difficult to source due to a lack of awareness. We still have a long way to go when it comes to ensuring the entrepreneurs who need information can access it. Google will only work when you know what to type as you search. I recently did a program on Coursera called ‘Beyond Silicon Valley’ with Michael Goldberg of Case Western Reserve University (online), and I wish everyone with an ‘idea/ dream’ will check it out!

    Sharing this story, I hope, will stimulate thoughts to advance your dream, and take a risk. Looking back I learnt from my experiences and its good sharing the risks and rewards that come from pursuing your dreams. Hey, I used garbage aka material waste recycled to advance my dream, and that’s got to mean something. For a while, I did it, and I learnt from my mistakes. Thus I gained from the ‘school of creative innovation’. Take that chance — you can do it!

    Hoping you enjoyed reading and will share your thoughts through commenting or 'liking' the posts. I like hearing from all my readers, good or bad, the fact that you take the time to read, is greatly appreciated.

    I've added my PayPal account , if you value my words and wish to support my writing with any contribution.  Its very safe and secure. You can choose to send any amount that you are comfortable with. Please check it out ! Thank you -You are greatly appreciated
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    First published in Marketing & Growth Hacking Publication via Medium (May10,2017)

    © Donna-Luisa Eversley and D-WORDSLAYER, 2017. All Rights Reserved





    Thursday, 4 May 2017

    A Compendium of Experiences: 2017


    Hello to all my followers


    I've got another update which I hope you will enjoy! Its a compilation published on Thrive Global via Medium to April 2017!

    "It is only at the point of death a man discovers the value of life as it flashes before his eyes!"

    There is a lot going on right now in my life. Even with an empty nest there can be many things taking place which are time consuming and mentally & emotionally draining. Life is an ongoing process which only stops when we cease to exist - die.

    When someone passes away and we feel the pressure of the finality of life, a wave of sadness creeps up. Sadness for all the times you did not meet and all the things you never said or shared. The introspection can be a weight itself, or it can free us of the urgency of  being busy with the unimportant things. A man who receives news that is about to die in a few days, weeks or months, understands the value of what he leaves behind, so he changes. It is at that moment when you realize that everything which kept you busy, is not important then the real living starts.

    As I share my compendium of  writings published on Medium via Thrive Global to this point in April, I'm happy that there is a part of me which will always be here. Write your words and share it with the world, your family , friends and others. Someone is waiting to hear your story. Share your 'beautiful' and amazing life!

    When you think about what matters

    Excerpt: Recently I had lunch with a friend who asked if I had figured out what I want from my life. We don’t live forever, so maybe its good to understand what we want. Change happens all the time. At school we look forward to moving to another level. At work we keep looking for more money, and that great promotion. Does it really make you happy?



    Finding The Lost Runner *


    Excerpt: Being fit is a way of life. It does not happen unless you make it happen. Looking at others won’t make you fit. Inspiration can only plant the desire, you have to make it happen. Sweat comes from action. Everything in life comes from action. When is the best time to do something — today, now.





    Mental Misinformation and the child who did not understand.

    Excerpt: My mother was the first of five children and my grandmother was one of more than five, and my great grandmother was also from a large family. No one told us about mental illness or what caused it or why it happened. We simply thought it was an unfortunate curse on at least one member of the family, and prayed never to ‘get it’! Some of the ‘folklore’ facts I grew up just knowing were;

    Watch Me Walk *

    Excerpt: Being empowered to make decisions and operate with authority and autonomy has certainly been a topic of discussion for women for many years. Its time to close the gap of awareness and start as early as possible. Empowering our girls from an early age requires giving them the tools to move forward, and ensuring they have guidance and support systems to help them along the way.

    PTSD — In Absentia *


    Excerpt: I still don’t understand PTSD fully. What I do understand is the feeling which sometimes creeps up. It makes the world seem different for a while. It can be like seeing reality in a different way. During awareness it can be hostile. It’s easy to give up control if unaware or absent when time shifts.




    The posts with the * asterix have been published before right here but have been updated with some changes

    Hoping you will enjoy reading these and share your thoughts through commenting or 'liking' the posts. I like hearing from all my readers, good or bad, the fact that you take the time to read, is greatly appreciated.


    A short brief about me: I’m a corporate business veteran, with practical experience in a diverse range of industries — Safety/ HVAC / FMCG /Industrial Equipment /and much more . Sales ,Marketing, Business Development & Coaching are combined to deliver over 30 years experience. As an entrepreneur and blogger (Dwordslayer) I’m right now living an adventure, and looking forward to the next opportunity to challenge mediocrity.

    I've added my PayPal account , if you value my words and wish to support my writing with any contribution.  Its very safe and secure. You can choose to send any amount that you are comfortable with. Please check it out ! Thank you -You are greatly appreciated.

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    © Donna-Luisa Eversley and D-WORDSLAYER, 2017. All Rights Reserved


    Tuesday, 25 April 2017

    I sit alone with God: A spontaneous heartfelt rant

    Disclaimer: Not all reflections are good

    I walk among criminals. You define these monsters as professionals because they dress and speak a certain way. They are educated ( or so they think) and in most cases are able to assume a role of power and status because of the occupation they call their career. Let’s be real, the face of corruption is just as bad in the corporate world, as the drug lord hiring the pushers to destroy a community’s youth.

    There is much to dislike in this world.

    There is so much abundance and yet the level of poverty rises,
    just like the tides of hate.

    Who the hell do you think you are?
    Who are you really when you pay your taxes and bills and everything
    which is declared as compulsory on your paycheck?
    Who the hell do you think you are when you go out to work
    every single day and expect a fair days pay for a fair days work?
    How dare you live your life anymore with expectations of anything good?
    Who the hell died and told you that you can be someone other than who you are?
    How dare you live your life with such hope and expectation?
    Let the winds catch your skirt
    and unleash the wrath of life upon your hopefulness.
    Faith, what is your faith to you when you fight
    that unending battle of relentless optimism.
    I do not feel your pain I have my own.

    We do not wish to live forever. We just simply wish to live.

    I hear you.
    I feel for you because I can feel your heart
    as it rushes out of your chest in anger.
    Your rage mounts,
    yet the criminals around you, laugh in glee.
    Why do you hope for something the world forgets was once present?
    Your life makes a mockery of you.
    You are indeed a fool, if you cannot look around
    and see that the world sits upside down on its axis.
    You were taught it was a sphere,
    but one day a man will say its square,
    and the ‘alternative fact’ will suddenly be accepted as truth.
    So who do you really think you are — loaded full of a belief in a dying humanity?

    Screech, Oh Shit…bang, bang, bang…
    yes, you get hit again, and again, and again.
    It won’t stop because
    the weak must suffer the pain of their foolish weakness.
    It is the law of the land.
    Who the hell are you to expect good service from anyone?
    Third world, fourth world, fifth world.
    Who the hell are you to crave compassion and understanding?
    Don’t you read the news?
    Can’t you see the world unfolding — and the people
    have lost their way and soul!
    Whoever you are, wherever you are- Disabled,
    Muslim, Hindu, Christian, Refugee, immigrant,
    transgender, black, purple, green , white — whatever your story,
    in the very depths of this moment I feel your tragedy, and your pain.
    For a few moments I am borrowing the sorrow I try to hide behind.
    My present feels soo much more painful than my past.

    I sit and bask in the understanding, that my resilience, needs to get some time out. This moment is here and in the now, I sit alone. Just me facing God.

    And finally,
    now I can exhale.
    I can let the reality walk into me.
    I believe, because I trust my maker whom I cannot see.
    He is here with me, in my moment of agony.
    I am okay now he is here,
    and my faith, and hope come out to greet him.

    Thank you for reading, this spontaneous heartfelt rant.

    If you can identify in anyway with this and if it resonates, share your thoughts and share this post with a friend! Stay awesome!

    Find me on: Twitter https://twitter.com/DLE41 or email:dwordslayer@gmail.com

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    Wednesday, 19 April 2017

    We Do Not Make Forever


    Just thinking out loud...


    There are many times we wait for tomorrow. It is not promised. We may wait for life to change and become more palatable sometimes. Then, there are moments when we wait longingly for hope to step in and make all the changes we desire. Hope is waiting for the future. To wait means standing still and allowing 'hope' to take charge. No matter how you spin it, the future is something we may never see.

    Yet we believe that change can happen, and we hope that tomorrow will happen today. Then, time passes. We grow older. Our expectations and wishes may come to fruition or the waiting game will continue.

    As you read my words I'm sure you are waiting for the subject of this post. Every word that passes should take you to 'what is this all about'. If this is your thought, you have experienced the subject. It is about time. It is about our forevers which can be happening as we speak in real time.

    I've been waiting for my kids to grow up. Waiting to get married. Waiting to attain that Ph.D., waiting for all my family problems to be solved. Waiting, waiting , waiting in motion. Doing what I believe is my part, but waiting for the more to come. I'm waiting to give that big donation, and waiting to go to do missionary work, waiting for everything to be in its perfect time. What is a perfect time?

    We do not make forever, but we are blessed beyond what is measurable with today. Today, I will stop waiting in motion. Today is my forever, and its your forever. I thank God for today. He holds all the forevers, and everyday I get to experience one!

    Make use of your today. Cherish your today, because in it you have found forever




    A short brief about me: I’m a corporate business veteran, with practical experience in a diverse range of industries — Safety/ HVAC / FMCG /Industrial Equipment /and much more . Sales ,Marketing, Business Development & Coaching are combined to deliver over 30 years experience. As an entrepreneur and blogger (Dwordslayer) I’m right now living an adventure, and looking forward to the next opportunity to challenge mediocrity.

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    Tuesday, 18 April 2017

    Climbing the knowledge Wall


    An adventure awaits...

    We are limited only by what we 'choose not to know'.

    Early last year I started to blog on a social media platform which is Spanish in origin - beBee.com . I was invited to visit the site and began publishing soon after. Its been a rollercoaster of learning and understanding people, their cultures and languages!

    Indeed, there is a very diverse range of cultures which we would never know, unless we choose to go out and find it. There is much to learn from what we do not understand because we have never had an experience. The internet has made it possible for us to interact and interface with many countries and languages, and its all fascinating.

    My reverie 

    As a teenager I studied Spanish in school. I did not wish to learn Spanish, I was drawn to French, but they were a pair, and to do one you had to accept the other. There was a fieldtrip to Venezuela, which is very close to Trinidad, but my mother could not afford to send me. I did not go to Martinique with the French group, there was no money for this also. I read in the Encyclopedias, looked at photographs and watched the few shows available on national television. It was not enough for me. More than fifteen years later I went to Venezuela and stood still at the airport, fascinated by the language and the people. Watching and observing, smelling and feeling, listening to the essence of the country. Upon my return, I visited Puerto Rico, and it was amazing. Finally, I experienced standing in another place where what I did not know forced me to communicate with something beyond words. I smiled, nodded, pointed, and used my limited Spanish to the curiosity and many times humor of those around me. "You do not need to know Spanish, everyone speaks English," I was advised by someone. In my heart I felt  to say to the person speaking, "what a shame you do not wish to communicate with the same level of understanding. It is better to try and make a fool of yourself, than to sound good to yourself alone." 

    I signed up for classes at the Venezuelan Embassy for a year and achieved to intermediate Spanish level.

    Blogging beyond borders

    One of the very best things I've discovered is 'I love the Spanish language' and the way words are expressed. I am inspired by the passion of writers who can make you feel their words like Jose Manuel Lopez Garcia, Mamen Delgado and Fernando Santa Isabel Llanos to name a few. I'm not beyond an intermediate knowledge stage in Spanish, but I take advantage of my online translator on many occasions. I'm familiar with more words and phrases and can figure out the content most times. The technical stuff, sends me 'up a wall', but I like climbing walls - they challenge me to go beyond mere words.

    Many days, I will try to read out loud the articles, and sometimes I know I'm sounding crazy, but its a way of learning. On other  occasions I will listen to the words on my audio translator and I can poke fun at myself while learning. Sometimes, I share a Spanish post on my English 'hives' aka groups and  hope there are others like me willing to take a chance and 'climb the wall of knowledge'. Why not?

    What distinguishes beBee.com from other platforms now, for me, is the way I can practice and experience Spanish , Portuguese, French. I'm hoping one day my knowledge expands way beyond the limitations of a single language. The world embraces many currencies, and people from other cultures and countries take the time to learn English. They climb walls accepting it as functional and normal. I admire their willingness to cross barriers and boundaries, mastering more than what they are given from birth.

    If you visit the posts I share and come across something in another language, its because I climbed that wall. I'm green, as are my verbs in Spanish sometimes, but I don't mind sounding silly to become better!

    This year I intend to climb many more walls, and maybe I will become an expert one day. So while I can read and post in English on beBee, and there are millions of English bloggers and followers, I want more. It is here, it is possible, because someone chose to break barriers creating the internet, and now someone stepped up and brought me a 'language wall' to climb.

    Most mobile phones will have a built in translator, or you can download a translator app. They do mess up the verbs many times, but they also get it right! Definitely beBee.com has something no one else can help me with on social media at this time. Something soo simple, makes a big difference, because I choose to climb knowledge walls!

    This morning as I read, sharing my experiences seemed important. Thank you for reading.

    Muchas Gracias. Por que no?

    A short brief about me: I’m a corporate business veteran, with practical experience in a diverse range of industries — Safety/ HVAC / FMCG /Industrial Equipment /and much more . Sales ,Marketing, Business Development & Coaching are combined to deliver over 30 years experience. As an entrepreneur and blogger (Dwordslayer) I’m right now living an adventure, and looking forward to the next opportunity to challenge mediocrity.
     
    Find me on: Twitter https://twitter.com/DLE41 or email:dwordslayer@gmail.com

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    Friday, 14 April 2017

    A Mother's love for Jesus


    A Time to reflect


    Today is Good Friday. Unlike most days it a day which comes around annually and reminds Christians and persons who believe in Jesus Christ, that he lived and died for us.

    Last Sunday I attended a show produced by a church I attend. The youths gave a wonderful moving enactment of the loss felt by those around Jesus when he died. I was moved to tears by the way the girl in the role of Mary- Jesus's mother acted. It was gut wrenching. For the first time in my 47 years I was able to connect with the pain of the mother of Jesus. It was painful.

    When a mother loses a child the pain would be indescribable. I have an inkling, from a time when I thought my first born son was dead in an accident. There was that moment when I cried out ,"Lord, please I will give anything, just don't take my son, please let him be alive." There was also another occasion when my second son had major surgery and almost died right after. For days, I prayed and cried out for the Lord to step in and save him. His life was spared, but those moments of gut-filled anguish are indescribable. Mary lost her son. He died in the most inhuman and pain-filled way. A mother would take that for her child any day.

    Mary lost her son and the world's people gained an opportunity for salvation. Was it a fair trade? Have you ever thought of what Jesus did for you and me?

    In John 10:10 of the holy bible (King James Version) Jesus says, "The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly."

    If  you are reflecting at this time and desire to have Jesus in your heart and released in your soul, tell him. That is a good place to start. If you are in a relationship with our Lord and Savior that is also awesome. I remember hearing these words many years ago and accepting Jesus into my life by opening up my heart, John 3:16, " For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him, should not perish but have everlasting life."

    The significance of a father, The Holy Father and creator of this earth giving up his son's life to save others is too big a sacrifice to ignore. I am glad I accepted Jesus in my life. My walk on this earth is easier, and my burdens and lighter because he is always with me. Whenever I stumble He picks me up and sets me steadfastly on solid ground. In my sadness I can praise Jesus. In joyous times I will praise Him. In all 'times' I will praise Him!

    Today I say Thank You Jesus. Thank You Mary for being his mother and Thank God that no sacrifice was too big, to give me redemption and a chance at salvation. This is Love!

    Have a Holy Reflective Easter weekend.

    God Bless You all.


    A short brief about me: I’m a corporate business veteran, with practical experience in a diverse range of industries — Safety/ HVAC / FMCG /Industrial Equipment /and much more . Sales ,Marketing, Business Development & Coaching are combined to deliver over 30 years experience. As an entrepreneur and blogger (Dwordslayer) I’m right now living an adventure, and looking forward to the next opportunity to challenge mediocrity.
     
    Find me on: Twitter https://twitter.com/DLE41 or email:dwordslayer@gmail.com

    Special mention and credit to: The New Testament Church Of God, ( Youth Group and Choir Ministries )  Montrose Chaguanas. Trinidad W.I. for being a source of inspiration for this message.

    Credit :Header Image: Pixabay


    © Donna-Luisa Eversley and D-WORDSLAYER, 2017. All Rights Reserved






    Friday, 7 April 2017

    Dwordslayer 2017: Marketing and Everything


    Keeping YOU in my loop!

    To all my followers and readers. I appreciate your support. 2017 has been good. It has brought some challenges which can only make me stronger and maybe change my vision on what I expect for the future. This blog is import to me because you read, share and are a part of my world.

    For 2017, I made a decision to try to streamline my online musings and content into different categories. Business and career categories will overlap when it comes to my blog platform, because life is not one dimensional.

    There are many personal reflections on a wide range of topics which will only be published here though shared sometimes on other sites from time to time. We will see how this works and will review as we move forward.

    I'm also publishing on Medium some specific posts/articles via Thrive Global and Marketing &Growth Hacking publishing sites. The stories on both are quite good and also including links to these home pages.

    When I publish there I will provide a link to the articles/posts here also, so you won't miss any of my writings. I'd like to get to know my followers and if you comment or like my posts here or on any link, I will respond.

    Here are some new writings I hope you will enjoy at Marketing & Growth Hacking Publication;

    The Social Media Follower : Following Communication
    Excerpt: "There are somethings we forget about humans when we are caught up in the latest technology blitz or hype. Not many people like to ask questions. They don’t like asking for several reasons which include the fear of sounding ignorant, dumb or stupid. Communication tools and social media channels are things which demand questions to be asked, because they change so frequently. Here are some examples of the words which ‘tripped me up’, before I asked questions and investigated their meanings;"

    Understanding Blogging & Social Media : Consumer Behavior
    Excerpt: "Blogging is much more than sharing stories via words posted online. “One must be keen to listen to be good at blogging, because its about a conversation.” This is my understanding of blogging from my experience. Businesses have been reaching out to have this conversation. Bloggers tell a story with their reading/viewing customers, which can help influence the decision-making process."

    Failing Up: There is only one 'F' word we fear as business people
    Excerpt: "To be a successful business entrepreneur, you really need to get up and get going to the next round. Sometimes a referee will halt the match, allowing one of the fighters to get help and catch his breath. Take that opportunity and breathe, the business can wait, while you regroup and focus on the next round."



    Thank you for reading, interacting and sharing. I hope there is something within which resonates and inspires you today! Stay awesome :-)

    A short brief about me: I’m a corporate business veteran, with practical experience in a diverse range of industries — Safety/ HVAC / FMCG /Industrial Equipment /and much more . Sales ,Marketing, Business Development & Coaching are combined to deliver over 30 years experience. As an entrepreneur and blogger (Dwordslayer) I’m right now living an adventure, and looking forward to the next opportunity to challenge mediocrity. Available for business consulting or speaking engagements internationally.

    Find me on: Twitter https://twitter.com/DLE41 or email:dwordslayer@gmail.com

    © Donna-Luisa Eversley and D-WORDSLAYER, 2017. All Rights Reserved







    Tuesday, 4 April 2017

    Choices: A woman's right to choose



    When I was pregnant with my first son, my father and the father of my firstborn wanted me to have an abortion. I was almost eighteen and preparing to go to London to continue my education at my father's home. Those plans were cancelled because I choose to have my first son.

    I made that choice and this year my son will be thirty. Having him was a struggle, but I made the decision because of my belief in everyone being responsible for their life and their actions. Making the decision to keep my pregnancy was hard. I had no money, no job, no support systems. I had my faith and my unquestionable love for Jesus Christ and the belief that no matter what he would never forsake me.

    I was in love and became pregnant through my own actions. There are consequences to our actions. I choose to take responsibility for my actions. Pregnancy is always a possibility when engaging in sexual activity.

    The Freedom to Choose


    Everyone should have the right to choose how they determine their actions when it comes to their body. Though I am not in favor of abortion, its a choice a woman has to make. For men, their sexual actions do not bring a swift reprisal or condemnation, when they impregnate a woman. Society does not condemn the behavior of 'their swimmers' going into a woman and fertilizing an egg. Males in society are given a free pass when they have children with a woman and just move on to another. If he were to 'carry a belly', he would have an opportunity to walk a woman's walk. I am quite sure men would choose abortion rather than endure the bashing society feels inclined to render to women in some countries.

    There is an article I read on Medium called What We Can Learn From Romania’s Complete Abortion Ban by Ilana Gordon, and it made me consider the privilege of my past choice. Let's face it, having the ability and freedom of choice is one every human being should be granted. There are some choices many will not agree with, but when a woman has to live with body changes, emotional challenges and ongoing financial and social adjustments to her life, it should be her choice.

    Here is my comment after reading this article which I want to share with you;

    "Hear me out on this. A woman cannot get pregnant on her own. A male sperm needs to fertilize our eggs. Therefore the safest way to ensure women don’t get pregnant is to make it a criminal offense for men to impregnate women until they are mature enough to handle their role. Yes guys, I know not all of you are bad dudes, but you need to control those sperms that leave your body and inhabit another. Actually, it should be illegal for men to not control their ‘little swimmers’. It’s their body, and I think they are responsible for what comes out!

    Abortion and planned parenthood are decisions which affect an individual; mainly the person who must face body changes over nine months. If a woman’s right to choose is taken from her, this is tantamount to regurgitating enslavement of a human being. We were once considered the property of men and in some societies we still battle those shackles.

    I hear many people talking about the rights of the unborn child, and I want to find out what about the rights of the children born in circumstances where they cannot be cared for. Let me see those self-righteous folks who are willing to spend on stopping abortion, but will not sign a donation card to help parents without money to feed their children.

    I am not in favor of abortion, but I think its a choice each individual has a right to make. I’m not in favor of this hypocritical society which hates human life soo much, they are prepared to kill a mother for exercising her rights over her body. If you really care about human life stop trying to harm persons who are living and breathing on the outside, for making decisions on their lives.

    Its time the anti-abortion folks stop persecuting women and get to the genesis of the matter. The person who makes the pregnancy get started is male. I’m suggesting take up your fight with men, and ask them to stop having sex, unless they are prepared to man up. Keep your ‘joy-toy’ covered and safe, and get some standards. Have sex with the woman you will make your wife! Boom! "

    Choices can hurt forever. Choices can also lead you to the greatest happiness you can experience.

    If we cannot tell a man its not okay to let your 'semen' flow or ban or jail him for his ejaculations which inflict 'change' in another human being, then the same choice should be given to a woman.

    It is my personal wish that we encourage or young women and girls to value life and not lean towards the choice of abortion. This is my advice to those for and against abortion. Let the love we feel for each other  be the reason abortion stops, and not the hate felt by the judgmental harm the life of a woman. 

    ***My eldest son was the apple of his grandfather's eye, and is loved beyond measure by his dad.

    Thank you for reading and sharing my words. They are from my own experiences and though we may not agree, do hope for understanding and respect for differing opinions.

     Donna-Luisa Eversley and D-WORDSLAYER, 2017. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Donna-Luisa Eversley and D-WORDSLAYER with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. 





    Wednesday, 15 March 2017

    From Flab to Fab!

    Writing it down

    Feeling great from the inside out. Countdown to the future me!

    Writing it down

    So you think there is a quick fix when it comes to weight loss?
    I’m sorry to tell you, first you need to define your flab and your fab for any action to work.

    Thought I would write myself a letter about my journey to fabulous today! For the New Year 2018 I’m going to reflect on my progress from this point and you can either bring out the champagne with me or eat some carrots as a consolation prize! I’ve had a head start and I’ve lost 2 dress sizes already, should I consider that an unfair advantage against me (haha)!

    It started with that photo of the woman running. I saw it above the massage bed at the physio office, and it called me. I heard it. It said run with me. One day later, I’ll answer her by writing to me!

    The Letter


    Dear Self,

    I’m defining my idea of ‘flab’ as the loose tire I carry around my waist. The one that falls over, but looks like its getting deflated from the work I’ve put in so far. My arms are all jiggles but I can’t do much based on my back, shoulder, and injuries to my neck and right side of my body. The cellulite and fatty deposits on my thighs look like a I’m kneading flour for bread and its lumpy. I love the way my legs look from below the knees to my cute feet, so that is one less area for enhancement! The other side which I hope will go down ( but not holding my breath) is my super huge derriere, which is firm but more than a tad on the enormous side! So that’s it. Everything else is good!

    How I see fab is more about how I feel, than a dress size. I’m wearing a 16/17 now and at the end of the year fab will be a size 12 or less! For some folks that may seem big for me at 5ft 4 ins, however I’m not looking to be a scarecrow. I want to be fit, but I’m also aware of my challenges and limitations. I also want to be able to walk at a moderate pace without stopping every five minutes. As a ‘fab test’ walking for an hour would be great. I’m also hoping I can do an hour on the bike at a decent borderline fast pace. I’m able to do twenty minutes slow while praying so I’m on track I think to ace that!

    Fab for me means I should be able to go to the beach and stand in the water for more than ten minutes without losing my balance. Lets set standing in the water on the beach for one hour as a ‘fab test’. Another thing I’m weary of writing here is I really want to be able to go down on the ground and get back up easily more than once — I will even settle for twice — can’t even go down and get up without help! Finally my ‘fab test’ for the year end ‘overall health ability’ will be to walk five hundred steps at the national stadium ( In my other life I could do one thousand easily). Fab sure feels like I will be ready for ‘Seal training’ next year 2018! I look fantastic in clothes ( I sure do), so lets see me in a red swimsuit, maybe a pseudo sports illustrated photo for regular folks as my ‘kickass fab test’!

    Achieving these goals won’t happen unless I’m committed to making them happen. I’ve got to eat healthy and balanced, and drink lots of water. I’m also going to rely heavily on good nutritional habits which I’ve been working on for a few months. My physiotherapists are going to have to help me with the physical stuff, and I will do whatever they allow at home. Most important though will be the inner strength, which I will work on developing from meditation and breathing exercises.

    I know I can’t afford the fancy diets and trainers, and maybe I don’t have everything I wish I had to assure my success, but Self, I can do it. I can keep a food and activity journal, because tracking my behavior is important. Hey, I know I don’t like writing “had a piece of cheesecake today again”, but I won’t lie because you will know! This year my goal is healing and improving my health, whatever it takes to get to fab. I need my mind and body to work with me. I also need my heart and spirit to cheer with me as I fight off the chocolate brownies and creamy decadent treats. I’ve been a yoyo for so long, I’m ready to change my model!

    I’m afraid.

    Yikes, I’ve written it all down and I won’t give up because I’ve said it. Lets see how I can get cracking on my healthy me!

    I’m accountable to you, and I won’t let you down Self. I’m rooting for you. You can do it. It’s just you and me and the unknown people reading this promise to yourself! I love you :-)

    Best encouragement and support,
    Self




    Journeys require understanding upfront

    When you prepare for something, its always easier if you are clear on what you’re getting into before starting. Realism has escaped many when embarking on weight loss based on the quick fixes and crazy expectations locked in the mind. Writing it down gives a clearer picture of  what is required. Think about what works for you, and write it down. As I re-read this, I feel the urge to delete, because I’m beginning to feel afraid. That voice of doubt is my first challenge. I’m human, and I can tell that voice – shut up!

    This is March 2017. The next time I write myself a letter on this will be,  1 January 2018.
    Are you with me on your own ‘self’ journey, please share with me and lets do this together!


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