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“Mom, I’m getting married at the end of next month!” That’s how my beloved first child, my son, told me of his upcoming nuptials. He did not sit me down and give me some tea, or even a glass of water. No way, he just ‘dropped it like it was hot’. It was decisive and a done deal. Us mums are not to be mistaken for the flowers called ‘mums’, sitting calmly and nicely waiting to be watered to bloom. We bloom within chaos and calm! I was stunned. It should have been expected but I guess there was that illusion of innocence allowed to cloud my vision. We know our babies will become men and women and leave us. In my case, I’ve been hoping I can leave them in like manner before they do the wedding march. Mum and son conversation “Son I really want to get married. Was waiting for you guys to grow up, but can’t seem to meet anyone. Maybe its too late, am I too old?” Son looks up in the air and then at mum, “ well I guess you won’t meet anyone within this house so you...

Keeping the past locked away in the past. The temptation to look back and wish is easy, especially when only good memories are at the front of your mind. Remember the past is 'what was' and the present is 'what is .' The future will be whatever you want it to be. Keep moving forward. I wrote the above recently and shared via Facebook. It was triggered when a friend of mine shared her thoughts on a matter and someone I knew for a long time was mentioned. When I hear his name my heart still beats fast, but a hurt and sad feeling soon follows. Not all relationships are good. Not all relationships are worth saving. If someone cannot love you for who you are, don't try to be who they want. You can only be the best you, and anything else is a poor imitation of the beauty you are. Love happens when we are young and we can become idealistic when it does not mature as we wish. In fact, sometimes we forget the flaws and focus on the dreams. Dreams are exactly as we...

* The world looks on as the United States of America appears to be in self destruction mode. One day it was a world leader of hope, justice, truth, liberty and many positives. The next it was everything we have been taught to dislike and fear - autocratic and totalitarian governing. Adolf Hitler, Joseph Stalin and Benito Mussolini, are examples of the type of governments from history’s past which lead totalitarian states. These are changing times, and we must take a stand  for what is right. A refugee’s hug Hug me please I’m on my knees Lost my home, My parents, and I am alone The war it raged, with bombs everywhere . Was left standing, no one seems to care. Hugs should be for free, so I’m asking you Can you open your arms It’s all I can give to you. Hug me please I’m at the airport today My mother’s in there, She was banned in the air. The people inside, won’t let me come in . Being born in a foreign land, right now is a sin A...

Celebrating long life I have had the privilege  in my life to know some remarkable women. A few are over 70 years and they have had a significant impact on those they meet including me.Long life is indeed a blessing many do not get an opportunity to live for. Each day is a new blessing, when the miracle of life is present. There are many positive teachings we can learn from those who live long lives. In the past we learnt from our elders, those with experiences to share and advice to pass o n. There are many  people sharing and giving advice on a life not yet lived. Who do we listen to when we turn on our radios , the internet or television? What is the substance of the experiences shared? Are they mental fantasies or a legacy of a life lived through and through? There are some extolling  the virtues of bigotry, racism, and inequality having lived a life gaining wealth on the backs of those they can oppress. Then there are those who live their lives exclaimin...