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Question To Self... Do I have the skills, authority, capability, autonomy, motivation to take charge of my life? That is one of my questions to self, as I grow older. I am accountable to the 'me' I want to be, and have been throughout my life. If I want to feel empowered to succeed, follow my dreams and gain respect for accomplishments, walking the 'thought' matters. I had a discussion of sorts with my daughter, who declared at almost twenty everything she felt entitled to, with defiance and my thoughts went to 'empowerment.' Being empowered to make decisions and operate with some form of authority and autonomy has certainly been a topic of discussion for us women. Empowering our girls from an early age requires giving them the tools to move forward, and ensuring they have guidance and support systems to help them along the way. As I think about my daughter and the corporate and social world she has entered, I am reminded of my own 'rite...

“There are no quick fixes in life…if the substance of achieving is learned”(Eversley,2016) Winning There are many ways to lose, fail, and give up. There is one way to succeed and win. Decide and choose which path you will take and get a move on it. The challenge is in keeping the mind and body in sync with fulfilling purpose and self-gratification. When a team wins and you’re a part of the team, you win. When you embark on a project alone and you succeed in accomplishing what you set out to do, you win. There is no ‘I’in team as we learnt in team building exercises. However, there is an ‘I’ in  ‘WIN’ and either in a group or on your own, you must bring that ‘I’ to the table. Doing your part involves getting your adrenaline to rush. It is that inner determination to achieve, which can get the blood pumping and the excitement to pull through. Through the years I have discovered every-time I get that ‘rush’ I will roar. Winning, in my opinion, means getting into a race with...

Purpose  This is an impromptu post..."we can listen, share an opinion when asked, and even offer advice, but it is the decision of an individual to determine their 'comfortable action'. As friends we can sit on the sidelines as cheerleaders, encouraging and supporting our friends in their choices. Everyone must make their own choices and are accountable for their own actions!" Having 'a purpose' is important! There must be a reason to awake each morning and face each day with a purposeful resolve. Purpose will establish a road to walk on and a place to get to. Purpose is determined by you. You get the opportunity to create a purpose for your life and your day. You also get a chance to set your goals and plan a way to fulfill your purpose. It would be a sad state of affairs in any life if  there is no understanding of purpose. Imagine waking each day and just waiting for something to happen - just waiting and wondering what will fill the time an...

The courage to carry “To have a love that lasts forever, is to truly understand vows and commitment” (Eversley,2016) In all of my forty six years of life  I have waited for the commitment of true love. To really believe that there are people in this world who can cherish and care for another romantically has become a faded dream. A dream which has been archived into the fantasy part of my mental library. The love stories of long marriages  which are not abusive or filled with indiscretions seem ancient. The new lifestyle sets a pathway to divorces which have become their own academy awards on film. Acceptance of prenuptial agreements and exit clauses are now necessary when thinking of love – whether in a celebrity career or leading a nondescript livelihood. To this end I did weep when I read  from a friend and learned of his devotion, marriage and love for his wife. Let’s be real, and understand this is a true ongoing story of endurance, commitment, passion fo...

A deeper meaning – Endurance “Endurance is built through conditioning with adversity & challenges!” There are times when we are faced with a choice to keep going on or to give up because it’s just too hard. Is it really too hard, too unbearable, too difficult to press on and continue to the end? To keep pressing forward despite the feelings to give in and stop are there within us all.  Endurance means finishing  what was started under changing and sometimes very tough circumstances! We all have the capacity for more . Marathon runners start a race with preparation of the body and mind. Mental conditioning is as important as physical training. As the runner makes his final mile, his body can slow down, because it knows the end is near and is severely fatigued. The sweat and parched insides scream ..”stop”.. and his mind says ..”you can do it, keep going. Almost there.” As the end comes and the body crosses over, it collapses in accomplishment. It has endured to the...

Capabilities are within your capacity! "Expand your capacity, and you will do more!" The human body can do many things. It will move, grow, expand, shrink, break, heal. It has the capacity to do much more than expected by the individual. Our minds will work with our conscious and subconscious expectations of ourselves to deliver what we want. We can only do, what we are capable of training ourselves to do.  Sportsmen will channel all their mental and physical capacity to train for maximum potential capability. A coach will take his team and expose them to difficult and challenging conditions to help stimulate their minds and bodies outside of comfort zones. The zone outside of one's present capabilities expands capacity. Pushing for more from oneself, is the nature of growth and an intimate awareness of  personal capacity.  Tip Self awareness is a part of personal development. Explore all parts of who you are to develop your capacity and awareness t...